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Month: August 2017

Stepping back to Move Forward: A Teen’s Take on Making a Mark

“I have always found comfort in seeking my parents’ advice, and we make it a point to sit down and talk things over.”

One’s teenage years are definitely quite a ride. In my experience, I can say I’ve grown so much from both my successes and failures – and it has all added up to make me who I am today, and get me where I am today.

There are times now, being in college, that I find myself a little overwhelmed with things. Like anyone else, I have big dreams and goals I want to achieve; however, getting swamped with a heavy workload, chasing deadlines and losing sleep it sometimes feels like too much all at once. I have always found comfort in seeking my parents’ advice, and we make it a point to sit down and talk things over. They always remind me to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. It’s a much-needed reality check that helps me get back on track and see what I need to change to be able to move forward. I tend to overthink things too much, so it also helps to take a little breather and focus on doing things one step at a time.

After graduating high school, I realized that I didn’t get to do much for myself. As I was listing my accomplishments for my yearbook write-up, I thought back to all the times I didn’t grab an opportunity because I doubted myself and I didn’t want to risk failing. From then on, I promised myself that I’ll do more in college. I knew that I just had to set my mind on it and focus on the bigger purpose, so back in my first year of college my friends and I decided to join a competition and we came up with a business plan for a social enterprise which aims to help densely populated poor communities and the growing problem of plastic waste. Our group was chosen to be in the Top 12 finalists, and that in itself was a cause for celebration. I can say that it was pretty fulfilling to have been able to start something like that. I believe I still have a long way to go in terms of making my mark in this world – but I’m proud of the little ones I’ve made so far.

Helping Kids find their Purpose

By helping our kids realize their own purpose, they become more accountable for themselves and their future.

I have two teenage daughters. My eldest is about to start college and my youngest is in 10th grade. Every day, I’m still learning and growing as a parent and I can’t say I’ve mastered my parenting skills at all. Far from it. There’s still so much trial and error. Some things I learn the hard way and others I feel like I score big time due to luck. Over the years of doing so, I’ve picked up a few things that I feel would add value to those who are just starting their parenting journey. In no way is this intended to be a fix-all or fail-safe list. Just a few things I hope will help.

 Here are the things that I feel will help kids begin to figure out their purpose. Some Do’s and Don’ts I wish I knew earlier myself.

Do…

…encourage them to try new and different things. Kids need to explore as much options as they can so they can narrow them down to things they eventually find interesting enough to pursue. Give them a good variety of things to try in different areas like art, music, sports, etc. Ask them to join new clubs at school that spark their interest.

…talk to them about the careers, businesses and jobs that other people do. Then watch for cues that might signal an interest in them. Very often, kids are only exposed to what their parents do and don’t learn enough about what else they could consider.

…let them fail. There is so much to learn in failing. It teaches resilience, humility, perseverance and so much more. If we are too quick to come to their rescue or solve a problem for them, it may not be helpful in the long run.

…expose them to work that helps others. If they know that the field they eventually want to get into can also help others, it teaches them compassion and the value of meaningful work.

Don’t…

…let them quit too early. If they sign up for a class, make sure they finish the whole season at least. Helping them to follow through and stick to decisions teaches them to be more persevering in the long term.

…use words like, “There’s no money in that” or “there’s no future in that field.” Too often, I hear kids decide on a college course because their parents told them that the one they really wanted had no future in it. How do we even know that for sure? These days, so many new businesses and new careers exist that were not around when we were growing up. We’re really not in any position to tell our kids that the field they want to pursue will NOT have a future. And if it doesn’t exist yet, why not create it? 

…belittle their problems. Everything is relative. For teens, everything might seem to be exaggerated. A little problem means the end of the world, and we tend to shrug it off or set them aside. If they come to you with a seemingly small issue, listen intently and help them to figure out what they want to do about it. Making them feel that you are supporting them will make them feel more comfortable to try things on their own.

…just focus on the results. Having good grades or garnering medals are good outcomes. Give more emphasis on the learning process and the journey they take. What effort paid off? How did they overcome obstacles? These are the things they will bring with them in the future.  By helping our kids realize their own purpose, they become more accountable for themselves and their future. They also enjoy the process even more. I hope this simple list helps other parents to try new things with their kids and, by doing so, learn a little something about themselves too.

7-Day Make your Mark Challenge for Leaders

Last week, we posted some reflection questions for leaders and professionals such as “where do you see yourself in the next 5 or 10 years in your life/career?”;  “what is the most meaningful to you that you can turn into something purposeful?”; and “Are you on the right career path?”

We want to challenge all leaders and professionals to make their mark in their career life and in the workplace.

The 7-day Make Your Mark Challenge for Leaders

Take the 7-day challenge now and see yourself develop and grow as a leader you want to become!

Day 1. Nurture relationships/ Serve your team

Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.- John C. Maxwell

Day 2. Make a gratitude and affirmation journal

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you- how small and simple it may be.

Day 3. Pray and/or meditate

Why Mindfulness and Meditation matter in leadership?

“A study conducted by Harvard researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) determined that meditation literally rebuilds the brain’s gray matter. The study only lasted eight weeks and in that time they found benefit equal to prescription drugs—and without the side effects.”

Day 4. Set and track a personal growth goal

Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction. – John F. Kennedy

Day 5. Perform random acts of kindness

Is it hard to be a “nice boss”?

“Harvard Business School’s Amy Cuddy and her research partners have also shown that leaders who project warmth – even before establishing their competence – are more effective than those who lead with their toughness and skill. Why? One reason is trust. Employees feel greater trust with someone who is kind.”

Day 6. Be a role model

Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means. – Albert Einstein

Day 7. Coach or mentor someone

Do you dream of helping your team through coaching? BE A CERTIFIED COACH NOW!

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YouPrint PRO: Make Your Mark, is our unique program for leaders, professionals, and parents that will let you discover your principles, values, and strengths; help you design your life blueprint, and take action to become a more purposeful individual. #MakeYourMark7DayChallenge #MakeYourMarkLeaders

How to Transform your Life?

In the previous entry of TJ Nadres about Transformation, he shared his journey of changes in his personal life and relationships. In this post, we summarized coaching tips from Haraya Coaches when asked how to achieve transformation in your life.

Coaching Tips: How to Transform your life? 
  1. When was the last time you did something for the first time? Step out of the comfort zone to experience something new in the courage zone and be surprised with what else you’re capable of.
  2. Believe in opportunities. If you have a mindset of looking at situations as opportunities to learn or grow versus things that “always seem to happen to you,” you have much more room for transformation.
  3. What are you thankful for in your life? Having an attitude of gratitude leads to more blessings appreciation
  4. Take baby steps. Instead of waiting for the big change, take smaller steps that bring you closer to where you want to go. Baby steps, as long as they are headed in the right direction, will eventually get you there.
  5. Surround yourself with people who add value to your life. If you find yourself around people who drain you and bring you down, find new people to hang around. You become the average of the people you spend most time with so make it count.
  6. Pursue your goals and enjoy the process. Goals are important they give us direction and purpose. While pursuing your goals always check in with yourself and think about the person you are becoming in the process of achieving your goals. Goals transform us.
  7. A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”- Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. Our form constantly evolves and new experiences stretch our mind, body and spirit. What new experience has shaped you?
  8. What new perspective can you focus on today? Celebrate every circumstance; triumphs or trials both offer learning and growth opportunities.
  9. Be clear on what’s most important. Every day we make choices about what to do with our time and how to spend your energy. If your purpose and values are clear, the choices shouldn’t be too difficult to make.
  10. Hire a Coach. I’ve had some really valuable conversations with my own Coach, especially when it came to making difficult life decisions or sorting out things I feel stuck with. Everyone could use a Coach, including Coaches.